The Beech Group

WHAT YET ANOTHER PILL?
As a qualified Sexual and Psychosexual Therapist I see an increasing number of clients who suffer from Premature Ejaculation (PE) and one of the theories I have is that we live at such a pace now that there is insufficient time to enjoy making love.
Couples work long hours away from home, they come home cook and eat dinner, by which time they are both exhausted and fall into bed, falling asleep before they have even managed a cuddle.
At weekends they have the shopping, cleaning and visiting friends to cope with and all this is assuming that they do not have any children to be fitted in as well.
Little wonder that when it comes to having sex this has to be “fitted in” as well and therefore, too much foreplay will mean yet more precious minutes being used up when they can cut to the main feature and get it over with in time for a day with friends.
This a bit tongue in cheek, but I do worry about the quality of relationships when all that is necessary to achieve an orgasm is a pill to turn you on, a pill to stop you coming too quickly. I fear that soon you will be able to get a pill to simulate the feeling of orgasm and then you won’t even have to get together to do “it” at all.
I spoke to a man recently who had come to see me because he was suffering from PE. It seems that this was almost a lifelong problem, since he first had sex at the age of 16. Most of his relationships were short-lived and he had managed to cover his inadequacy by pretending that it was early excitement with a new partner and he didn’t allow himself to stay in a relationship long enough to be found out.
When I talked to him about the fact that this is a problem that is, in most cases, non organic and very amenable to cure by devoting a little time and undertaking some pleasant exercises, he was worried that he didn’t have enough time to devote and would possibly have to put up with it.
Fortunately, I was able to persuade him to give it a try and after several weeks he reported that the problem was much alleviated and, in fact, he and his partner were enjoying the best sex they had ever had.
Now if he had known about this pill he might well not have come to see me, but would have taken the pill and although he might not ejaculate so quickly, I wonder if he would have improved his sex life as much as the client who went for the exercises.